A Gentleman’s Touch: Philadelphia Winter Photo Shoot

by Jeremy Carden

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During this time of the year, cold weather means bundling up under layers of coats and sweaters in order to keep warm. However, A Gentlemen’s Touch (AGT) once again demonstrates how to dress in certain conditions. AGT held a photo shoot in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

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There might have been diversity in the clothing, but the overall theme was about remaining fashionable and most importantly warm. Footwear ranged from loafers to boots according to the outfit being worn.

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Some participants even included scarves and hats which are common items of clothing for the cooler temperatures.

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No heavy jackets were worn, the man instead chose to wear: jean jackets, sweaters or light vests.

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Some of the accessories included: bow ties, watches, rings and bracelets for men. Overall, the photo shoot demonstrated that cold weather does not necessarily mean heavy winter wear is a must. Sometimes lighter clothing can work well in cooler conditions just as well as heavy coats and jackets.

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Looking at the photos it is easy to see that these outfits allow a lot more easier movement than the standard large coat or heavy boots most people chose to wear.

Just as the individual pieces of a puzzle are put together to form a beautiful picture, the same can be said about picking up an outfit. AGT can be summed up in a one word: class.

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At first glance, it appears that the organization only teaches about the importance of dressing with style no matter what the occasion or weather condition. That is far from the truth because it is more to it than that. AGT reaches out to men of all age groups to teach that clothing does not make the man, but it is the man that makes the clothes. Carrying yourself with dignity, confidence and of course style can make all the difference in how you look in another person’s eyes.

For more information on A Gentleman’s Touch check out their social media websites listed below:

Facebook: A Gentleman’s Touch

Twitter: @OfficialAGT 

Tumbler: A Gentleman’s Touch 

Instagram: @AGentlemansTouch

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College Dating #2; Ladies Be Reasonable

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This is one subject that can get a bit touchy but it is something that I could not avoid talking about.

Don’t get me wrong, in a relationship I believe it is proper for the man to take out his girlfriend for a nice dinner or buy her something nice. However, it should not be something that is expected to be done numerous times. Why? Both individuals are in college and the last time I checked it isn’t the most inexpensive place to be in today’s world.

With rising tuition each semester, student loans, buying books, housing fees, buying gas (if the student has a car) and all the other things that take money out of a student’s wallet it is hard to keep a woman happy while in college. If women would be a bit more understanding then a lot of relationships would go a lot smoother.

I know times are tough after a long week of classes involving quizzes, exams, projects and of course the stress that comes along with that. Not to mention if one or both of the people in a relationship have jobs on top of that it just adds on to the daily demands already put into place from being a college student. Sometimes you just want to get away from it all with your man especially if the two of you haven’t been spending a lot of quality time together due to demanding schedules.

College relationships seem to be a “test” as to how two individuals would handle marriage when you really think about it. I’ve never been married but just from observation and talking with people I know who are in relationships some of the same factors are evident.

Here are a few of the similarities:

  • Bringing the stress from work or school into the relationship by taking those aggressive feelings out on each other often resulting in arguments due to misplaced anger
  • The relationship can sometimes get a bit stale with the same old routine over and over again. Don’t be afraid to spice up the relationship with something new. Instead of a movie go out dancing or just do something that you’ve never done before
  • Money can be an issue but only if you let it. Despite not being married, keeping a budget (and this goes for the men) is important because the school cafeteria and coupon dinners won’t keep a woman satisfied if this happens EVERY date night
  • The guy or girl may feel neglected if work and school seems to come in between them with dates having to be rescheduled due to demanding work schedules or exams/projects to work on

I know the last one listed above is true for guys who have girlfriends in the nursing program or ladies with a boyfriend studying law, those majors have a demanding schedule and it is not uncommon for person to feel a bit neglected. However, making time for one another is a topic I’ll cover in Part 3 of my “College Dating” blogs.

Ladies, sometimes it is best to keep things simple when it comes to date night with your man. As I mentioned above, there are many things that can cause stress and exhaustion while in college. Some nights it would do some good just to spend time with your man. Go out to a place off campus to get away from all of the distractions, look at the stars and just talk. Remember that old saying “Simplicity is best” and when it comes to love that really does apply. Those moments when the two of you can get away from everything so you can be together means more than anything he can buy you (ladies could argue that a wedding ring would mean more but that’s just based on opinion).

Overall, just remember that you are not the only one with a demanding schedule in college. If your boyfriend truly cares about you he will bend over backwards trying to make you happy. Also consider his feelings too, maybe he had rough day at work or a tiresome week of classes and he needs some attention. Just like text messages, phone calls or social media messages/conversations; it works BOTH ways. He doesn’t always have to be the first one to contact you. As a man, I can say that those little “I love you” or “Good morning” messages mean just as much to us as it does for females because it shows that you care. With that in mind, ladies PLEASE try to be a bit more reasonable when it comes to the dating expectations of your man especially while you are still in college.

College Dating #1: Finding the Right Love at the Wrong Time

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How many times in life have you had this thought go through your mind; “If only I had met him/her at a different point in my life, maybe things would have worked out between us…”

Coming out of college in May and only being 21, I’m surprised at the number of times I’ve caught myself thinking about this late at night. I mean high school is a lot different than college. Not just in general, but I mean in terms of relationships.

Honestly, in high school a lot of people date each other just to date each other, form a relationship and usually break it off before or soon after graduation. In college, it is a whole new concept because typically in college you do not just date to date. More often than not when you are looking for someone to form a relationship with it is usually with someone you plan to spend the rest of your life with.

In conversations with women at Liberty, it was not uncommon for me to talk about things I never had to discuss while I was in high school especially on a first date or during a general conversation with a friend who was a female;

  • Where do you see yourself after you graduate?
  • In 5 years, what do you see yourself doing?
  • What goals do you have?
  • What career are you going for?
  • Do you plan to stay in your home state/region or move somewhere else?
  • How many kids do you want?
  • What religion do you practice?
  • What political party do you stand for?

And the list goes on because it might sound strange but dating in college is kind of like applying for a job. You have to have your “interview skills” intact because you need to be prepared for the standard questions that are asked by someone who is interviewing you for a potential position in a company. In a dating concept, men and women are “applying” for a potential position as a husband or wife without even knowing it.

I know that might sound ridiculous but just think about it; Women are tricky when it comes to this because just a job interview, they may throw in one or two questions that you didn’t prepare yourself for or you can’t give a straight answer to and I’ve seen a lot of guys get thrown off and not get called back for a second interview.

Looking back at some of the girls that I met in college, I’ve come to realize that the reason most of those friendships never blossomed into anything more was because we were both at different points in our lives or wanted different things:

  • She saw herself living somewhere that I didn’t want to move to
  • I wanted to wait for kids but she wanted kids right away
  • She felt called to travel overseas on mission trips while I wanted to stay in the states
  • I was ready for a relationship but past baggage kept her from wanting one

Now I’m not picking on women when I say these things, it comes down to me being male and saying things from a male perspective. I’m sure many of the women reading this are going;

“Well there was a guy but it turns out that he didn’t want kids at all! There was a guy I dated for 2 years but he never proposed because he had his heart broken before! I knew a man who wanted to go on mission trips but I wanted to stay in Utah!”

I know it is not just women who have baggage or are the ones who do not think a relationship can last due to certain circumstances. It all comes down to where both of you are in life at the time you are dating or are planning to date. Not only that, what you want and what you expect of each other is also a deciding factor.

There will always be that one person who crosses your mind from time to time. Let’s call that person “What might have been…” and that person is someone that shows up a lot for some people. It is important to not let relationships that “could have been” interfere with the relationships you are in now and the ones you certainly will have in the future.

Who knows that one person you thought was the one for you but was not due to it not being the right time might show up sometime down the road. There may be potential to start a relationship if both of you are finally at good places in your lives and can finally be together. Only time will tell that tale.

Love at First Sight or Love at First Conversation?

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I’m pretty sure at some point in your life someone has asked you; “Do you believe in love at first sight?” It is pretty much a “yes” or “no” kind of question. However, when you begin to really think about it the question goes much deeper than that. When it comes to love at first sight that is generally referring to physical features you notice things like hair, eyes, body, clothes and whatever else catches your eyes first.

First conversation on the other hand goes much deeper than that because it is when two people truly begin to get to know each other. Not to mention that it seems a bit less superficial than judging someone just on their appearance. It is like they say, “You only get one first impression so you had better make it count.” You get a peek into a person’s personality by the way they handle a conversation;

-Do they only talk about themselves?

-Are they interested in what I have to say?  

-Does he/she make good eye contact during the conversation?

Little things like that can make all the difference. Personally for me, there have been a couple of situations where I fell for a girl at first sight. Amazingly, the last girl that happened with had a GREAT personality and it was an eye opener that personality sparks more of a connection than looks alone.

A conversation shows that you are interested in getting to know someone, but wanting someone based on just their looks shows that you are interested in getting into their pants. There is a thin line between love and lust. After you get that first glance you must ask yourself; “Is it love at first sight or love because of lust?”

See the difference?

This is just my personal take on this because when it comes to love there is no right or wrong. I’ve never had a girl in my life that I’ve loved. To me that word should not be used or taken lightly. So, now I ask you which is the foundation of your own relationships and potential love interests; first sight or first conversation?

God Knows Who Is Right for You

“Wow…just wow…” that has been the only thing on my mind since I came to understand something that I should have figured out a LONG time ago. I don’t know about you but I’m one of those people who over thinks just about anything and everything.

At night when I get in bed to go to sleep, my mind suddenly begins to race thinking about numerous things; conversations I had during the day, past experiences and whatever else decides to pop into my head while I’m trying to sleep.

I don’t know why but suddenly the thought of relationships came to mind. It had to do with the whole “Why am I still single, while just about everyone I know is in a relationship?!?”

It came to me out of nowhere that the right one will come when God tells me. For some reason the story in Genesis 24-26 just jumped to the front of my thoughts. Abraham was getting old and he knew he didn’t have much longer before he would pass on. He wanted his son to marry so that God’s promise would be fulfilled to continue his bloodline to become the father of many nations.

He sent his eldest servant back to his home country to find a wife among his kin since the women in Canaan did not seem right for Isaac.

While waiting at the fountain the servant had no idea of how to pick out a woman since there were so many coming to fetch water. He prayed and God showed him which one. That woman was Rebekah. She gave water to him and offered to water his camels.

Then after I remembered the story, it just hit me that in my lifetime I’ve encountered many women. Most have either become good friends and others were just people that crossed my path but we kept going our own separate directions.

As I got older, I began to ponder whether or not I have already encountered the woman that I was meant to marry.

People have been telling me to be patient and wait on God because He will let me know when the time is right and who the woman He made just for me is. Never have I realized how true that statement was until tonight.

I’m not saying that I’ll be at a fountain waiting for her, it could be at a bus stop, in a grocery store or wherever but one thing is for sure it will be when God sees fit for me to know.

With that little nugget of wisdom God placed on my heart tonight, I feel like I have a weight lifted off my shoulders from occasionally worrying and complaining about being single. Patience and faith are key factors. I mean that servant had no idea who the right woman was or how long he would be waiting at the fountain.

He could have been sitting for awhile before one woman came along, gotten frustrated and just picked the first woman that came. However, he had PATIENCE and FAITH that God would show him the right woman at the right time.

The same holds true for women waiting on the right man to come along. So, to all of the single people reading this message just know that the right person will be coming your way sooner or later. While you are waiting remain patience and keep faith in God because He knows what He is doing!