Can You Truly Be Happy For Others If You Are Not Happy With Yourself?

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We all have that one friend who is successful at ANYTHING and EVERYTHING that they attempt to do. Of course no one is perfect but they are labeled by other people as “Mr. or Little Miss Perfect.” I’m sure a lot of you can relate when I mention how frustrating it is to have something that you work for or something that you try to do fail miserably. Then there are other times when you put your all into something but the results are not coming as quickly as you’d like them to.

There is a saying I think about whenever I begin to show distain for other people becoming successful or getting closer to their goals while I’m still stuck in the same place; “Jealousy comes from counting others’ blessings instead of our own.” That green-eyed monster starts to rear its ugly head whenever I begin to feel trapped just dreaming while other people I know are having their dreams become a reality.

For the past 2 ½ years, I’ve been working to become a professional songwriter; writing over 150 songs, mailing out dozens of letters to artists, spending money on songwriting books and getting my work copyrighted, emailing/calling over 50 potential lawyers for representation so I’ll be prepared whenever I reach my goal because I’ll need professional help, making demos, my own website (http://jccarde5.wix.com/jtunesmusic), Facebook page (http://www.facebook.com/pages/JC-Carden-Lyrics/159893560774888) and the list goes on.

However, even with the many contacts that I’ve made through networking there hasn’t been any big ups in my journey so far. The closest thing to success is making contact with a guy who runs a recording studio who will record any song I bring in that has “hit potential.” Honestly, this is a lot better than someone who just wants me to come in and record a song even if it’s horrible just to get my money. That is why I am determined to just use that particular studio. Downside is that I haven’t been able to find reliable people to record demos with; vocalists, other lyricists, people who know about using the necessary equipment or composers.

As you can imagine, I haven’t been in the best of spirits since my dream hasn’t been going so well. The thing that gets to me is that some of my other friends just seem to “fall” into their success or their next step in becoming successful in their dream career. You know what I mean when I say that, those people who do not have to work for anything. They seem to have everything fall right into their lap while you are working your butt off but nothing is happening.

Many people that have made it in whatever career they were pursuing says that the struggle is what made them appreciate their success even more. That is because they know what it is like to start at Square 1 with nothing but their dreams and own ambition. It is not about what you know it’s about who you know. Nothing could be closer to the truth that than statement because I try to remember that in any situation I find myself in.

Patience is the key but it is hard for me to fit that key into the lock of success because of how long I have to wait for something to happen. It is true that most artists and musicians have been working at their craft for most of their lives. For me 2 ½ years ago was when I finally found my passion in life that one thing I wanted to do more than anything for the rest of my days. I’ve been writing for a good portion of my life but it was when I reached the age that I was able to do something about it that changed everything for me. I write songs, short stories, poems and screenplays and it gives me great joy to be able to look at any piece of my finished work. That is because I put myself into my work and that gives me the greatest satisfaction.

Another thing to remember is that you shouldn’t be jealous of another person’s success. In fact, you should rejoice especially if it is someone close like a friend or relative because someone you know that has been working and praying hard has finally achieved something that they’ve been working for. True success comes when you have someone to share that  joy with.

Will I ever reach my dream? That depends as to whether or not it is what God has in store for me but I doubt that He would give me such a heated desire to pursue this dream if it wasn’t meant to happen. My hope is that you too will find that one thing you love doing more than anything else. One thing that we have to remember is that everyone has their own race to run, their own dreams and goals to follow then achieve. No matter who is getting their blessings around you whether it be through hard work or seemingly just handed to them it doesn’t matter. Why? Just knowing that somewhere down the road your blessing is waiting for you as a reward for the hard work you put into that project you are working on right now makes the struggle worth it.

Is Your Dream Falling On Deaf Ears?

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Ever feel like when you express your dreams, goals or desires to people that they aren’t listening or understanding you at all?

I go though that sometimes when telling people that I want to be a writer or more specifically a songwriter. It is like they brush it off like nonverbally saying; “What kind of ridiculous dream is that?”

I remember one time when I told my mom that I wanted to buy a guitar. You know so I could work on melodies myself. And the look she gave me was one that I can never forget. It was a look that said; “What in the world?!”

Prince and Taylor Swift are just a couple of my songwriting and music inspirations. Every knows that Prince is like a “god” of guitar and Swift being a country singer started out when a repair man came to her house and taught her a couple chords to play and the rest is history.

That kind of set me back seeing that she was my main supporter in my writing and then to witness her reaction to my statement just hurt a little on the inside.

Sometimes it does bother me especially after someone ASKS me what my passion/dream/goal is in life.

When your dream falls on deaf ears don’t worry because someday those same people are going to want to listen to what you have to say but it will be too late.

The point of this blog is to let you know how important it is to keep “real people” around you. People who listen and support your dream are the most important people to have at a time when you are building up your dreams. Also remember that the people you interact with help to shape who you are. Be around people who will bring you up and help in some way and also people that you can help by your work ethic or just being a friend.

Its funny how people are “deaf” to your dreams but once you succeed they suddenly get back their hearing because they want to listen to what you have to say and hope to slither in on your success.

Everyone who was present during the struggle deserves to be part of your success in some form or another.

Just remember that when you feel ignored by people when you talk about your dreams.

Started From The Bottom…

 

Ever have one of those days when you just want to crawl up under a rock because everything seems to be falling down all around you?

It seems like no matter what you try to do nothing works out the way that you planned. I’m pretty sure I can speak for anyone reading this that we’ve all had some days like that.

I don’t know about you but sometimes I just sit and reflect on where I am now in life. With nearly half of 2013 gone, I sometimes feel a little depressed because I have not accomplished any of the goals I set on New Year’s;

-Record a full demo album (9-11 songs)

-Visit Nashville

-Join the Nashville Songwriters Association International

-Find a lawyer or music agent

-After finding an agent/lawyer, search for a record label

Man, all I can do is shake my head at how none of these goals have come to light. Found out that looking for a lawyer was premature because I have to have some concrete demo tracks to actually shop around to labels before I get a contract. Joining the NSAI has been setback due to having to work a job in order to pay off housing for last semester meaning I had no extra cash to pay the joining fee.

When it came to demos I went to a recording studio but the guy running it thought my songs were not good enough but I had the talent to get there if I kept on writing.

Ever since that day (which has been around a month and a half) I’ve been hesitant to even pick up my writing pen. It’s like everything I’ve worked for these past 2 years was meaningless.

Hopefully, I can get a breakthrough one way or another pretty soon because Lord knows I need one.

Here’s to anyone working hard on any goals that they’ve set for themselves. Just remember that if you are at rock bottom the only place to go is up!

Fireworks

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A few nights ago I was sitting on some benches outside the Welcome Center on campus and in the distant sky I noticed fireworks were going off. The show lasted for about 15 minutes and I was just sitting there entranced by the wonderful lightshow going on. I then realized that if I made it to the top section of the football stadium I’d be able to get a better view of the fireworks. By the time I made it there, the very last firework exploded and the cool night air blew away the last smoke cloud that remained.

I never did find out why the fireworks were going off in the first place, I assumed that some kind of athletic event was going on or a concert. While I was watching from outside the Welcome Center, I was thinking about how those fireworks reminded me of life.

Fireworks shooting into the sky at top speed and then exploding for everyone to see only for it to fizzle out as it disappears into the sky.

It reminds me of the dreams that I once had. Taking the world by storm by being successful in whatever it was that I did. Trying to get my goals accomplished as fast as I could like a flying firework to finally show everyone what I was capable of with my name flashing in lights across the sky.

Sometimes I feel that is how most of us operate. We want something so bad to prove someone else wrong or to show someone up that we make rash decisions pushing ahead without thinking straight just to have it all blow up in our faces like a firework exploding.

I thought it was funny that when I realized I could get a better view from a higher platform and finally made it there it was too late. That showed me the importance of thinking ahead in order to make sure the best possible outcome was available to me when I needed it.

Take a moment to look at how far you’ve come, where you’ve been and how much more traveling down your chosen path that you have left to continue on. Time may pass by but eventually you will illuminate the sky with your passion like that last firework in a dazzling show!

 

Goals are like a Cookie Jar

Remember as a child when you would always want a cookie but your mother would place the jar on the highest shelf in the kitchen?

Whenever she wasn’t around you would sneak into the kitchen and do whatever it took to get the jar down and claim your prize. Push a chair with all of your might, climb up on the counter, take a spatula or stick and try to push the jar to the edge so you could catch it. Finally, you’d somehow manage to get your cookie!

Now that you’ve grown up your goals have changed drastically from wanting a single cookie to things like marriage, finding your career, etc. It is easy to give up when you don’t know how you are going to reach for those goals like you did with the cookie jar.

However, one thing to remember is that when you wanted that cookie you did everything in your power to get it. The same rules apply in your life now. Even though you have grown the same principals apply meaning that you should use every creative bone in your body to come up with ways of finally getting the thing that you have been working so hard to accomplish.

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.”