College Dating #4: Don’t Cheat or Try To Be a Player

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This blog is for the men but of course it applies to the girls as well. In my other three blogs about dating in college, I’ve addressed the importance of finding the right person and how that usually happens at the right time when you least expect it. With that being said, why would you jeopardize a good relationship by cheating?

During my time at Liberty University, I’ve seen a few guys who labeled themselves as players. Some of them got away with it but a couple of them weren’t so lucky. I don’t know if this will apply to colleges aside from LU, but women tend to connect.

What I mean by that is for some strange reason it seems that EVERY woman knows every other woman. Never underestimate the possible connections formed between women because women talk…a lot!

The girl you are dating right now might know the girl you stare at during a boring lecture who sits two seats across from you in Biology class, the girl who lives in the dorm across the street from you and the girl who works behind the counter at the Starbucks you visit every day and so on.

Seriously, they are all connected in some way. That is why it is important to do your research and by that I don’t mean be a stalker. Also, I’m not trying to say that being a player is cool and to do your homework so you won’t get caught.

I’m trying to tell you a story…

I had this friend who lived on my dorm and he was dating a girl who lived on the other side of campus. He really liked her but about two weeks after they started dating, he was talking about how he liked this other girl on campus too. As time went on, he began to brag about how he now had two girlfriends and that was the man.

Well, let’s fast forward to around 5 days later; it was a Wednesday and he comes into the dorm looking mortified as if his Xbox 360 was thrown out of the 2nd floor window by his dorm mate. Someone asked him what was wrong and he said that his girlfriend(s) dumped him. Of course, we had to know how it happened because he just got dumped twice in one day!

He went on to say that both girls knew each other. Not only that they lived in the same dorm and were in the same Prayer Group (a weekly meeting in LU dorms when the dorm is broken into groups of 5 or more students who come together for a spiritual meeting kind of like a mini-bible study every Tuesday night).

During their Prayer Group the night before, both talked about how blessed they were to have a great guy in their lives. The other girls in the group asked who their boyfriends were and the girls were shocked to discover that they were dating the same guy! Needless to say my friend did not have the best reputation with any girl on campus from that point on.

The lesson of this story illustrates the importance of trust, honesty and commitment in a relationship. If you are not satisfied with the person you are dating it is better to be honest and breakup with them instead of cheating on them.

If you are thinking about cheating on the person you are dating (this goes for guys AND girls), just think about the repercussions of your decision before making it. Trust me, if you are doing right in a relationship with someone you won’t have time to be messing around with somebody else on the side.

Not to mention you will not only being hurting the emotions of the person you were dating in the first place, but you’ll make the person you were cheating with feel like a “side chick” (if she doesn’t know about the person you were dating to begin with). Do you remember the reason you got into a relationship to begin with?

If you started dating someone for the right reasons; you felt that this person is someone who you can connect with on an emotional level, brings out the best in you and you both really care about each other. Why would you be willing to throw it all away on some emotions you get just by looking at another person?

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